Posted by: ourwildride | March 20, 2008

Adoption Twist on Obama’s Speech

I’m still processing Obama’s speech from Tuesday 3/18. And this afternoon I started wondering what would happen if it were tweaked to outline a new vision for the adoption community that went something like this…


For the natural mothers in our community, that path means embracing the burdens of their past without becoming victims of the past. It means continuing to insist on a full measure of justice in every aspect of American life.

But it also means binding particular grievances to the larger aspirations of all Americans. And it means taking full responsibility for their lives — by demanding more from agencies and communities, and by demonstrating that while they may face challenges in their own lives, they must never succumb to despair or cynicism; they must always believe that they can write their own destiny.

For adoptive parents, the path to a more perfect union means acknowledging that what ails our sisters, the mothers among us who relinquished children to adoption, does not just exist in the minds of the natural mother; that the legacy of pain and discrimination — and current incidents of discrimination, while less overt than in the past — are real and must be addressed. Not just with words, but with deeds — by insisting on unbiased counseling; by enforcing openness agreements; by lobbying for open records; by providing any woman who chooses to parent a ladder of opportunity that was unavailable for previous generations.

It requires all members of the adoption triad to realize that your dreams do not have to come at the expense of my dreams; that investing in the counseling, education and post adoption support will ultimately help all of our children prosper.

In the end, then, what is called for is nothing more, and nothing less, than what all the world’s great religions demand — that we do unto others as we would have them do unto us. Let us be our brother’s keeper, Scripture tells us. Let us be our sister’s keeper. Let us find that common stake we all have in our children, and let adoption policy reflect that spirit as well.

These ideas were lifted (some entirely and some in part) from Obama’s 3/18 speech which can be found here.



  1. I’d vote for you, that’s for sure!!!

    I won’t vote for that Obama dude, but I hope he wins the Dem nomination. I agree with most of the what, it’s the how that bugs me.

    At the very least, I can live with him becoming president and give him a chance, KWIM?

  2. Yes I do KWYM.

    And thanks for the vote – although I’m pretty the press would have me skewered in about 2 seconds.

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